Ask how you can help them. Let them know that if you ever make them feel insecure and uncomfortable, they should inform you right away, so that you can make a change. Do not defend yourself or feel upset. Just listen. If you cannot understand, just ask and make sure you won’t make the same mistake the next time. Let yourself to be the one that will make them feel secure to be with. This is a noble effort to make and also something that will serve other field of your life.
Ask how they want to talk about their body. Although not all, some transgender people have gender disorder for their sexual identification. They are not comfortable or even feel painful with their gender. When it comes to intimate relationships, this may mean differently. Everyone has their own perspective and prefer to be treated in different ways which they feel comfortable with. Do not assume anything as a matter if course. Always ask first if you are not sure.
Do not think them as your potential sexual partner. At most circumstances, we assume everyone is used to words that are used to describe body and behavior. This is totally understandable, but when it comes to trans dating a transgender person, be careful with your wording. In your experiences, you may be very comfortable talking dirty with your exes, while with transgender people, lose that habit. Do not get too comfortable doing that. Think twice with what you are going to say. Put yourself in the right position.
Do not count on them telling you all about their life being a transgender person. Curiosity is natural and there is nothing wrong with being curious. You have to know that transgender people often need to explain to many people about their existence and the misunderstanding people have on them. Therefore, being requested to answer is more likely a burden for them. Before you ask a question, add this sentence: If you want to talk about this… This is a good way to show your respect.
Get ready to educate other people. Ts dating non-binary people can enable you to realize how non-binary our society is. It would bring pressure to your interpersonal relationships. Some of your friends and family might treat you differently because of that. There might be some awkward reaction if you are out in public, even violence sometimes. Just walk confidently beside each other. Remember to always stay with each other. You have to know both transgender people and cisgender people as well as the issue that concerns them. Get ready for supporting your ally anytime.
At last, see through their cover to the inside, instead of judging one’s gender by their appearance. On the other hand, your partner and your gender might alter at some point of your life. You even have known each other before that happen. This might change your relationship. Remember, changing will not make your desire, needs and feel unauthentic. In any kind of relationship, save room for changing will create a healthy foundation.