Even at the best time, living as a transgender person is quite challenging. When it comes to ts dating, things can get a lot more complicated and depressing. Here is some advice that can help you find the right direction in the non-binary and trans dating world. This is not an overall list. Any suggestion is welcomed.
Consider put this topic between self-introduction and the third date. We all know not all people are approve of the existence of transgender people. If you are clear with each other’s position from the very beginning, it would save you from lots of trouble that may come after, including those obvious transphobia and chasers.
If you are concerned about privacy and safety, you are trying to cut down the number of people who don’t recognize your identity and you don’t want to share this information, this is completely legal and proper.
Ask their opinion directly. After you exchanged some information and decided to continue this relationship, it’s time to be realistic, because if you are to develop a relationship, let’s face it, this is a matter needs to be settled one way or another. As you surly know, the murder rate and suicide rate for transgender people are relatively high, which are mainly cause by the indifference and even violence for them. Just ask: Do you accept transgender people? If they say no, then you saved yourself a lot of trouble and energy and that is the end of this conversation. If yes, then you can talk a little more about it to find more out.
Take your comfortableness and communication as your top priority. You don’t need to struggle to persuade those transphobia or anti-transgender people to accept your opinion, even if they have no threaten to you. Those people who do not understand you are not worth of your time. Love yourself first before loving other people. If someone is asking you to educate them, you are not obligated to do that.
Know what you want and find out what you are looking for, because the person you meet may not know you as you do. As a non-binary, you are used to think about gender, while cisgender people take it for granted. Having a clear perspective on the ideal relationship you want can help you quickly judge if he/she is the right one for you.
Choose your battle. If a potential partner ask you some sensitive questions nicely, sometimes, it might be worth the time to educate them. They might be confused and unenlightened at first, but what is good is that they want to get to know you and understand you. You can bargain like this: I am glad to answer these questions for you, but you have to know that I got these a lot, so if I lose patience one day, I would suggest you to google it.